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Breaking up is never easy.
In the middle of a relationship, couples forget that change is a natural part.
We are so caught up in the fantasy and excitement of love that we forget to expect and understand all possibilities.
But breaking up is also an important part of any relationship – whether we like it or not.
And if we know how to start or enter a relationship, we should also be responsible enough to know how to finish it.
So many men and women these days don’t know how to end their relationships in a good way, and they often hurt each other deeply.
Indeed breaking up is a very sensitive and hard topic to open. But at some point, it is also the right thing to do.
Whether on the phone, by letter, in person, or by SMS – gently or forcefully, we have to find the right way to tell our partners.
Honesty, in the most suitable degree, is usually the best.
Here is a list of the most common breaking-up expressions in English.
Have you ever used, felt, or received any of them?
Technique # 1: Be as vague and indirect as possible. (until your partner guesses it)
I’ve tried to tell you many times but I couldn’t.
I… ummm, well… we, you know…
I was thinking that maybe we should… er, you know what I mean?
Technique # 2: Put the blame on yourself.
I’m not good for you.
Please forget about me.
I’m sorry I haven’t been a good boyfriend/ girlfriend.
I’m not the right person for you.
Technique # 3: Put the blame on your partner.
You messed up my life.
You take me for granted.
I can’t be what you want me to be.
Technique # 4: The cold, 100% truth works
I don’t love you anymore.
I have another girlfriend/ boyfriend.
I’m not interested in you anymore.
Being with you is no fun.
I loved you.
I’m tired of you.
I need excitement, not restriction.
You don’t excite me anymore.
Technique # 5: Be casual about the whole thing.
I knew it wouldn’t work.
Let’s not tie each other up.
You can see whomever you want.
Technique # 6: Be positive about the whole thing (Or, Use sugar-coated words).
Thanks for the beautiful memories. I will never forget you.
I’m so happy to have known you.
Remember me sometimes.
I’m sure you’ll find the right one for you.
Technique # 7: Draw the “time” card
I need time to myself.
It’s not time for me to get serious.
Technique # 8: Draw the “compatibility” card
We don’t belong with each other.
We are too different.
Technique # 9: Be polite and sensitive of feelings.
I’m sorry it didn’t work out.
It’s hard for me too.
Technique # 10: Be emotional and dramatic.
You mean nothing (to me).
Pack your stuff!
I can find someone better than you.
You’re not the only boy/ girl in this world.
P.S. If there's any other expression you would like to add to this list (or negative reaction), please feel free to mention it in the Comments. Thanks!